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Want to prevent sexual assault? Let’s talk consent

by Julie Michaud
September 23, 2013
Reading Time: 4min read

dont-rape-300x263In early September on the St. Mary’s University campus, a frosh chant surfaced, once again reminding the public that issues of sexual assault are very much alive and well.

“Y is for your sister, O is for oh so tight, U is for underage, N is for no consent, G is for grab that ass,” the chant went, but the attitudes expressed in St. Mary’s now infamous chant are in no way specific to Nova Scotia. Within days, students at the University of British Columbia were heard repeating an almost identical chant (changing the phrase associated with the last letter to “go to jail”).

And while reports of these chants were shocking enough to warrant national media coverage (which consistently identified the chant as being about “underage sex” rather than sexual assault) and public apologies from the universities, over the years, thousands of frosh leaders and froshees at both universities gleefully chanted the words without feeling that there was anything wrong with them at all. And why would they?

Rape culture at universities generally, and at frosh events in particular, is nothing more than a reaping of what governments have sown in public education policy. For years, provincial governments have bowed to pressure from socially conservative groups who warn that sex education in public schools will corrupt the minds of children and turn them into sluts and sexual deviants.

In the minds of these lobby groups, if children aren’t taught about sex in schools, they won’t hear about it anywhere else. But leave discussions about sex and consent out of public education, and pop culture will happily fill the void, telling young men that women’s bodies exist solely for their pleasure, and simultaneously exhorting young women to prioritize their sex appeal to the opposite gender while shaming them for doing just that.

In the rare instances where sex is discussed in public schools the discussion is all too often only about the risks of STIs and unwanted pregnancies. The message is clear: sex will get you into nothing but trouble. Pleasure isn’t even part of the equation.

But leaving pleasure out of the picture doesn’t discourage young people from having sex, it simply perpetuates the idea that having sex isn’t about mutual enjoyment. Divorced from pleasure and fueled by sexist pop culture stereotypes, sex then becomes something that women are expected to do because they flirted, drank too much or showed too much skin.* It becomes an obligation.

And what happens when students go to university? They don’t magically acquire an understanding of sex and consent that is different from what they have previously learned.

The need for consent education to combat these kinds of ideas is a proposal that was reiterated by many participants at the Campus Forum on Abuse & Sexual Assault last March. In some cases, the sexual assault survivors who came to the microphone acknowledged that their perpetrators might not have even realized that they had assaulted them. When we as a society primarily understand sexual assault as something that is perpetrated by depraved strangers in dark alleys, and that in all other cases the survivor “wanted it,” then this ignorance should come as no surprise.

It’s time to stop telling people how to not get sexually assaulted and start teaching people how to not assault. The Centre for Gender Advocacy staff and volunteers have been having conversations about consent with as many students as possible in an attempt to facilitate these conversations. This year, all ASFA frosh leaders participated in a three-hour consent workshop, and plans are currently in the works to present these workshops to students living in residence as well. Concordia’s announcement that it will be opening a Sexual Assault Resource Centre this fall is another step in the right direction and a move that universities across the country would do well to emulate.

Halifax-based writer, Glen Canning, understands the need for consent education all too well. Two years ago, his teenage daughter Rehtaeh Parsons was gang raped while drunk and vomiting at a party, and in an intense display of victim-blaming, was then brutally harassed for the next two years until her suicide last April. It wasn’t until a massive public outcry that police reopened her case. Despite photos of the assault being widely shared online, police had stated that there was not enough evidence to lay charges.

Not educating people about sexual assault will not make it go away, just as not addressing the importance of actually enjoying sex does not mean that young people will simply stop having sex. The chants that students at UBC and Saint Mary’s engaged in are indicative that conversations about consent are long overdue and need to start now.

Julie Michaud is the Centre for Gender Advocacy’s Administrative Coordinator. To get involved in the A Safer Concordia campaign, or to request a consent workshop for your class, student club or association, contact Julie at info@genderadvocacy.org.

*Men also experience sexual assault, and may in fact have less access to support and resources than women when they do, but over 80 per cent of survivors are women, and the notion of “asking to be sexually assaulted” is only directed at women.

A version of this commentary was first published by The Link.

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